How Do You Deal With Pressure?
Your stories for the week
Today’s question is about being hard on yourself. Can I relate? Can we all relate? Yes. Especially to being hard on yourself in situations where you’re expected to perform.
I’m eager to hear what you all have to say here. What I will say is something I say to myself at least once most days: Give yourself grace. No matter what it is. Just … grace. You deserve it.
I, like many others, am my own harshest critic. This predates my time as a parent and can get out of hand in stressful times to the point of poor sleep, back pain, and the constant feeling that an anvil of criticism and judgment is weighing down on my chest and slowly crushing me. I have learned and sometimes remember to practice showing compassion and care to myself, but I’m not perfect, and it’s still a lot at times. I recently spent a couple of weeks with my in-laws (they were visiting where we live, staying at a rental house nearby). I spent the majority of that time yelling at myself in my own head about how awful I am and that I can’t get along with them better and go with the flow when they invariably annoy me in countless ways. Needless to say, 2+ weeks of being incredibly hard on myself was not pleasant, and I am still decompressing from the experience and feeling quite wounded.
So my question is, how do folks find ways to take care of themselves when they are in family situations where they feel pressure to entertain, socialize, and/or be “on”? I don’t want to skip family visits for the rest of eternity, but I also don’t want to keep putting myself through the wringer like this.
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